In our fast-paced world, we are constantly surrounded by quick fixes and immediate gratification. Be it fast fashion, fast food, or the relentless hustle and bustle of daily life, there is little time left for what truly matters. Experts in psychology and wellness emphasize the importance of slowing down in all aspects of life, including our intimate relationships.

Of course, a passionate, quick encounter in the morning shower can be thrilling. However, the concept of slow sex offers a contrasting, deeply immersive experience. Drawing inspiration from experiential sex or introductory tantric practices, slow sex allows the brain ample time to process sensations and send arousal signals throughout the body.

 

A few guidelines for Slow Sex:

  1. Emphasize extended foreplay: Without the pressure of time, take pleasure in exploring your partner’s body and tuning into each other’s cues.
  2. Set the mood: Create a sensual ambiance with music, candles, and plenty of kissing. Experiment with erotic massages using massage candles or oils. Focus on touch and truly experience the sensations that arouse you and your partner.
  3. Pay attention to reactions: In the unhurried pace of slow sex, observe your partner’s responses and facial expressions. Discover new arousing stimuli that may have been overlooked in the pursuit of a quick climax.
  4. Maintain eye contact: Prolonged eye contact activates mirror neurons and synchronizes the limbic systems of both partners, enhancing the intensity of shared arousal.
  5. Experiment with toys: Slow sex provides an opportunity to introduce various non-penetrative toys, from feathers and nipple clamps to clitoral stimulators. Explore your partner’s erogenous zones and edge them towards orgasm without penetration.
  6. Practice control and self-control: Build sexual tension by approaching orgasm multiple times, but stopping just short of it. Although it may be challenging, the resulting climax will be incredibly intense.
  7. Address sexual difficulties: For those struggling with premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction, slow sex can help improve awareness and control of arousal levels.

 

So, let us raise a toast to slow sex in our fast-paced lives, promoting deeper connections and more fulfilling intimacy.